When you start to plan a wedding there are so many things to think about its often a great help to have the services of a wedding planner. Many registered venues do employ someone to help you with arrangements and there are also private wedding planners that can often recommend supplies for a range of services.
One of the most important aspects within the whole design of your wedding is the actual ceremony and even more important “the vows”. The words you say to each other will be something you and your guests will always remember.
It can be one of the hardest parts and worrying for a couple to get it just right. You may ask yourself, how long should the vows be? Should you include some traditional element or make it completely personal, even down to something only the two of you understand?
Working with a qualified celebrant
This is where working with a qualified celebrant, who has trained specifically to write ceremony scripts can help enormously. It’s even more important to work with a celebrant who has the freedom and flexibility to incorporate almost anything, whether that includes cultural, religious or spiritual references or not. You have to feel comfortable and confident in your chosen celebrant.
Something to bear in mind and is of the upmost importance is remembering that is YOUR day and the ceremony is about the TWO of YOU and should not be heavily influenced by others. It’s good to have suggestions but ultimately when working with your chosen celebrant, you have to be happy and comfortable with the words used.
The significance of your vows has to be relevant, personal and meaningful and don’t forget to say “I Love You”!
Celebrants take time to get to know you and are skilled interviewers that encourage you to talk about yourselves; you’re relationship, situation and your wishes.
Fail to prepare, prepare to fail
To prepare and to gather some inspirational ideas it is a good plan to get in the right frame of mind (and not stress) and create an ambiance that is calm and quiet. It might also be worthwhile looking back at some photos and discussing times spent together, what you enjoy doing, common interests and why you love each other. If you want some traditional vows a celebrant can help with this too.
Once you have the important aspects highlighted a celebrant can draw up a draft copy and you can consider any modifications you may need to make.
It’s vital to prepare and practice well in advance and there is some truth in the saying “Fail to prepare, prepare to fail”. You will undoubtedly have some wedding day jitters if you are not used to saying such significant and personal words to each other or indeed in front of other people. However, if you get this most important aspect of your day right, you can simply enjoy the rest of the celebrations.